THE NOVEMBER NOTE.

Hey hi hello,

I hope your October was truly something special (and a lil spooky)!

You can always quit. True, right? But would you have achieved what you wanted to? I ask myself this regularly.

This past month, I heard a few great things. The first—and most impactful—was the perspective that time is going to pass anyway, so you might as well spend it doing something you love or working on something worthwhile. It doesn’t matter when you start, as long as you start. If you’re even a little curious about something that could positively change your life, do it.

For instance, when I gave a three-year degree a second chance, it was because of a conversation I had with a friend’s mum in the comfort of their living room after talking about how I needed something more. What she said wasn’t anything extraordinary, just a reminder that anyone can do it. You don’t have to be particularly special to work hard—just consistent, with your future self in mind.

So, I started. At first, I was working a part-time role with what felt like full-time hours, running from uni to work. Eventually, I got really lucky—through past networking, a great offer was placed at my feet, and I snatched it up as fast as I could. I was grateful. Leaving was hard but inevitable; that newfound comfort wasn’t helping in every way I needed. I was ready for something new—what happened to be both a new home and a new job. Then came another new job, with opportunities for growth that I learned you have to ask for and be persistent about.

Long story short, keep looking for ‘projects’ that allow you to develop and apply your skills. Do it before you know how. The biggest mistake you can make is allowing your fear of messing up to stop you from even trying. Be afraid—and do it anyway.

A little reminder: nothing truly worth doing is ever easy. It will take time, you’ll be uncomfortable, and, in addition to that, you’ll feel stretched beyond your limits. Furthermore, this is where growth happens. Think back to your younger years—growing pains weren’t fun, but they allowed you to reach new heights—literally.

Here’s to moving forward—one step, one project, one brave decision at a time. The time will pass anyway, so make it count. You’ve got this.

the october note.

Hey hi hello,

I hope your September was incredible! 

These little nuggets that we write about as you may know are picked up along the month. Things to enthusiastically share as a fun fact, or perspective with the intention to provoke further thought.

Let us begin with the chatter of incremental goals. Breaking down your big goal; this could be a dream or daily task, into smaller steps, in order to make achieving it easier. This is similar to incremental games, where the player completes a compilation of tiny tasks to attain something. If you’ve got a goal, it can be broken down and made to seem even more possible. This method not only eases the pressure on ones mind, it also creates a sense of accomplishment with every small step individuals take and complete, reinforcing ones ability to fulfil tasks (Balash, 2025). Thereby the acknowledgement of such a thing allows the creation of a positive feedback loop. The more smaller steps you complete, the more reward you present yourself i.e the ticking off said tasks. A stroke of genius, right?

So yeah, make a to-do list with things that feel like a no-brainer. I literally have ‘drink water’ and ‘attend class’ on mine lol. It helps for sure , it is the little things that go a long way.

Oh, on another note—cry in front of your parents! It’s not like they have never seen you cry before. Just because you’re now an adult doesn’t mean you can’t confide in them. Crying and sharing emotions with loved ones can actually be good for you. Research suggests that openly expressing emotions rather than suppressing them is associated with lower levels of stress and improved well-being (Gross & John, 2003). Think of suppressing your feelings like clogged pores or arteries (yeah, not cute). Bottled-up emotions tend to build pressure and can contribute to anxiety, irritability, and even physical health issues (Pennebaker, 1997).

So… let it rain, let it pour. Talk, chit-chat, reach out, and be honest when people—especially your people—ask how you’re really going. Studies show that emotional disclosure in supportive relationships helps foster trust, closeness, and deeper understanding (Reis & Shaver, 1988; Laurenceau et al., 1998). By allowing these moments to unfold, you not only lighten your own emotional load but also strengthen bonds with those who care for you most.

In other words: tears can water relationships.

P.s Happy October

Yours truly,